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Joking around, TRYING to be funny, I told someone they looked like Susan Boyle. Not to mention, she was a Black woman that had no features to resemble her. She really took offense and said that, I looked like a field slave with my nappy hair.
I don’t know about yal, but it really hurt my feelings. The whole situation had me lost for words. I think it hurt mainly because, I don’t look at my friends in terms of light skin and dark skin. It also left me with many questions on the mindset of people within 2010. Would it be better if I looked like a house slave? Honestly, to be a descendant of any slave shows the strength and determination that is within our blood. The Thirteenth Amendment abolished slavery in 1865, 145 years ago. I am proud, in this short time, ‘we as a people’ have advanced, however…‘We as a people’ still have stragglers with a “slave mentality”. They say things like, “She’s pretty for a dark skin girl.”
I didn’t really get a full grasp of the color issues within our community until I read Color Complex by Kathy Russell, Midge Wilson and Ronald Hall. Yes, I was always aware of the rules of color, what was “in-style” and kool at the time, but I really didn’t understand the WHY of our color complex. The book states: To trace the origins of the color complex, we must return to the year 1607 when three ships sailed into Chesapeake Bay, stopping at Jamestown,... After reading, my perception changed. Dark skin was my new favorite thing… I didn’t want to be like everyone else and think White is right.
For centuries, we have been taught that the darker the skin, the uglier the person. It is not fair to assume that one should question what they have been taught all their life. As cliche as it sounds, the only weapon one has is to read. After reading, and arming yourself with knowledge, you will know that Black, in all shades is beautiful.
Links You May Enjoy…
* Racialicious: Darker Skin Glam Girls
* Why do people think dark skin is not beautiful?
* Model: Ajuma_Nasenyana (Pictured)
* Where does Alek Wek rank on the AskMen.com celeb chart?
LOL, love the previous poster’s response & I totally agree. Always do you!
Heyy!!! So, Ive always had the opposite side, Im not dark enough, Ive never had that “house slave” mentality thinking I was better than anybody. But people always assumed I was half white or that I thought I was better!! It really took a toll on me, I was like Black comes in all shades!!!!!! And we’re all equal, I never thought of my friends as light or dark….we were all just ppl…. I think thats how it should be everywhere!!! and always!!!!
What?! You are gorgeous and your hair is beautiful, no question! We can all related to this, and we are all hurt by it. I’ve been called “too light” to others darker than me and “too dark” for other lighter than me, so I have heard all of the negative comments! ALL of them!
That girl must still be hurting from her young self when she must’ve been teased and caused names based on her skin color. That is lik 99% the case. You are fabulous, I love that you didn’t even stoop to her level, you’re amazing.
you need to continue to look like YOU….
I love being called a field slave… it gives me the opportunity to mention their “house slave” mentality and high degree of self hate (afterall, you gotta hate yourself and your people to call them slaves)...
so don’t let that bother you… us nappy headed women got lots of haters out there… in the shop every Saturday morning, looking like whoa by Monday night. It takes a LOT of self love to be who you are and not allowing others to judge you because you like you….
do you…
tell ya girl I ASKED… how’s that rag (weave) holding up while sweating at the big house? lol